When He’s Fine, God-Fearing, Six-Figures Deep… but Still Not It.

Let’s talk about one of the hardest situations a healed woman finds herself in.

Not the season where all you attract are toxic, emotionally unavailable men who don’t call back, don’t commit, or don’t have a clue.

Not the struggle love phase where you're trying to build a man from scratch like you’re Bob the Builder with a bonnet on.

No.

This is about when you finally start attracting the good ones—the evolved ones, the ones doing the work, the ones with therapy receipts and clean fingernails. The ones who pray before dinner. The ones who open doors, know how to talk about their emotions and handle business. The ones that, on paper, look like answered prayer.

But... there's one problem.

Just one.

And it’s not a small one.

He’s perfect—almost. But "almost" is starting to feel like the most disrespectful word in your dating vocabulary.

You’re not the same woman you were five years ago.

You know who you are now. You know what you want. And you know how it feels when it’s not right—even when it looks damn near perfect.

That’s what makes this phase so complicated.

He’s 90% aligned. But the 10% is in a place you can’t overlook:

• He’s spiritually grounded, deeply masculine, nurturing… but wants a poly lifestyle and you don’t share your heart, let alone your man.

• He’s financially secure, generous, sexy as hell… but he doesn’t believe in anything beyond what he can see, and your life is built on faith.

• He’s safe, steady, sweet, loyal… but you’re not sexually attracted to him. And your soul refuses to settle for "it’ll grow on me."

• He’s your safe space, your soft place to land, makes you feel like the most beautiful woman alive… but tells you he’s terrified of commitment and "doesn’t want to ruin the vibe" by making rules he's not sure he can keep.

And here’s the part that’s hardest to say out loud: These men aren’t villains. They’re good men. Some of the best you’ve ever met.

But the version of you reading this knows…Good is not the same as aligned.

So what do you do when you keep meeting men who are almost right?

Do you shrink your non-negotiables down into something more palatable?

Do you convince yourself that sexual chemistry isn’t that important?

Do you start questioning whether you’re asking for too much?

No.

You date them anyway.

Not to collect disappointments, but to collect clarity.

Because when you know who you are, and you’re clear on what you value, dating is no longer about proving your worth or chasing the dream of being chosen.

It’s about experience. It’s about data. It’s about reaffirming what already lives deep inside of you—that you are worthy of a love that doesn’t ask you to compromise your core.

So date them. Let them show you something new. Let them teach you what you like and what you love.

But also let them go when you realize: "This man is dope, but he’s not mine."

Here’s what you do instead of settling:

1. Stay spiritually clear. Ask God to keep revealing—not just the flaws in others, but the places in you that might still try to make excuses for red flags dressed in fine linen and beard oil.

2. Trust your body and your spirit. If your body says no, listen. If your spirit is uneasy, pay attention. Discernment is the language of the divine feminine.

3. Stop making your standards feel like obstacles. That thing you think is too specific or too rare? It’s not. It’s exactly what you need. Don’t let a little loneliness convince you otherwise.

4. Embrace "almost" as a beautiful step forward. Every man who is almost it is proof that you’ve upgraded your energy. You used to attract chaos. Now you attract quality. Keep going.

5. Love without attachment. Learn to hold people gently—not like a lifeline, but like a mirror. Thank them for showing you where you’re going next, not where you’re meant to stay.

You don’t have to demonize him to know he’s not your man. You don’t have to explain why you're walking away when your soul already said enough.

Let your no be holy. Let your boundaries be a blessing. Let your life stay wide open for the kind of love that doesn’t come with fine print.

He may not be perfect. But he’ll be aligned.

And that, Queen, is the only kind of love worth keeping.

The truth is, love like that doesn’t just show up.It’s something you call in, write through, and become aligned with—starting with the stories you tell yourself.

That’s exactly what I’m doing on my YouTube channel, Pages, Plots & Pen Game. I’m breaking down how I’m building the next series, step by step—but not just for entertainment. I’m using storytelling as a mirror. A tool. A portal.

Because writing isn’t just about characters. It’s about getting radically honest about the roles we’re still playing in our own lives.

If you’re ready to start writing (and LIVING) your next chapter differently, come join me. Watch how I create fictional love stories while helping you rewrite the real ones.

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