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4 Ways To Take Responsibility For Yourself

4 Ways To Take Responsibility For Yourself

When a Queen finds her King, she goes from strong to invincible. Strong women have to make tough decisions that require them to use their head instead of their heart. Every strong woman knows and values the worth of her king. Soulmates never dissipate.

Naw, I don’t wanna grow up, you say to yourself. But, we all have to at some point.

There is a moment in all of our lives when we have to step up and take responsibility for anything and everything in our lives. Where you are is a culmination of every single decision you have made up until this point.

Don’t know where to start because …?

I have your back though. Here are 4 key ways for you to start taking responsibility in your own life.

1. Stop Making Excuses

The blame song is a really old record you need to stop playing over and over. Be brave enough to know that you owe yourself the truth. Be brave and admit it.

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2. Listen To Yourself

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Remember, when you point the finger at somebody else, there are 3 pointing straight back at ya. Click To Tweet

Remember, when you point the finger at somebody else, there are 3 pointing straight back at ya. If you find yourself saying things like “She didn’t do what she was supposed to do…” or “If only Kevin wouldn’t go buying mansions for 32-year-old masseuses…”

(Oooops Wendy), then you need to stop and think. These patterns are no good for you, and you need to stop them right away.

Learning to take responsibility for things that happen in your own life is something you can take 100% ownership of.

Learning to take responsibility for things that happen in your own life is something you can take 100% ownership of. Click To Tweet

Warning!

In a relationship, it’s something we women need to be careful about doing. Make sure you only take responsibility for things that are completely within your control and have your name on it. As you get further along in your relationship, you’re going to have to learn some things about making those tough decisions.

With your head and not your heart.

As you get further along in your relationship, you’re going to have to learn some things about making those tough decisions. With your head and not your heart. Be sure to read the post: Overcome Relationship Obstacles and Stay Strong Together

Here are 2 reminders to help you with making difficult decisions.

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3. Trust Your Gut Instinct

“When ya know, ya know”. We all see women who have stayed with cheating men and we wonder “How the hell is she doing it?” Well, what if you love literally every single thing about him and it was a one-off. Some of us would go, “Damn right, I’m gone”.

It all comes down to your instinct – no matter what your head or heart say about the matter. Trust your gut. It never lets you down.

4. What Do You Value Most?

Trust. Honesty. Loyalty. Soulmate. There are so many standards and principles we have that can never be messed with. Make sure that the hard decisions you make are in line with your values.

For example, if your most important value is to stay with your King, then you’ll be able to stick with him regardless of anything. Know your values and act according to them. When you know yourself, you know what to do and what you really want.

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As you get fiercer and wiser, learn to hold yourself accountable and trust your intuition. Would love to hear about a time you stood strong and true to you. Let me know in the comments!

5 Comments

  • Shavon says:

    I have two nephews I take care of; one is 18 and he just graduated thank God and the other on is 16.
    Since I’ve had them I have been constantly putting my relationship on hold, due to the fact I don’t want them to think I’m putting my time for someone else over them. I feel now that I was just using them as an escape way out of certain relationships I didnt want to be in. And I really think I lost some good guys. Lol. But I’m going to do better & face the facts that they cant cling to me forever and I can’t cling to them forever. So new year, new start.

    • Porscha says:

      It’s great when you can recognize that it’s you who’s getting in the way of you. That’s how you can get on with ‘fixing’ the situation. Wishing you success and happiness! ❤️

  • Sharene price says:

    I’ve been with my boyfriend for 9.5 years. I’ve dealt with multiple women, two babies and stuck by him through 4 years in prison. But 2018 did something to me he said something to me that was unforgivable. At that point I stopped caring. Now he has until next month to make a decision or that’s the End of this relationship. I feel so good knowing that I can walk away and not be turn about my decision. That’s the best feeling in life when you know that enough is enough. When you realize that you can do bad all by yourself. When you know that everything you want in life does not mean that’s what God wants for you.

    • Porscha says:

      That’s the best feeling in life when you know that enough is enough.

      Couldn’t agree more! When you make your own decisions and stand by them, nothing can beat that.

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