​​​​​​​​​​​​​​You must let go of the past before you can move forward​​​​​​​

“He really did me dirty!”

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“Sure I’ll forgive him…when chickens fly and Cisco leaves the Creep Squad!”

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“Men are really, Really, REALLY trash!”

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Did you catch my other ‘Forgiveness’ post? Read it here: Forgiveness Is Simple – No One Said It Was Easy 

We’ve all been here before ladies. We take a chance on a guy we meet. He says all the right things while you’re dating. He tells you he loves you.

Then the ball drops and the ish really hits the fan.

“You have HOW many baby mothers?!”

“You’re married?!”

“You have a BABY on the way?!”

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Whatever reason had you running for the hills, it’s safe to say you may be wary about getting into your next relationship. If you think you can get over a guy by getting under another, guess what?

YOU’RE WRONG!

There, I said it.

Believe it. Accept it. Learn from it. Now say it with me “No more dick therapy!”

Take the time to heal from your last relationship. Learn to let go. Because in letting go, you can eventually move forward. You don’t want to end up getting into a relationship only to repeat the SAME mistakes from past relationships. Einstein once said that insanity is doing the same thing over and over again whilst expecting different results.

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That means by following the steps in this post, you get to be as smart as Einstein but with your baby hair edges laid.

Amazing, right?

Uh-huh.

Here are three ways to let go of the past and move on.

3 Steps to let go and move on

1. Accept

Accepting does not mean that you act like what happened was okay and you’ll get over it tomorrow. Take some time to reflect on what happened to you. This can be hard to do with your best friend in the background shouting “I knew it! I knew his ass was no good!”

Take 2 minutes out of your day to sit down in silence. Think back to your relationship as if you were a third party observer. Understand what he did wrong, what you did wrong and accept it. Now… don’t go over what you did wrong and use that as an excuse to go back into that toxic relationship! I’ve seen ladies do this way too often. They forgive a man and use that as an excuse to hop right back into his bed.

NO WAY!

Acceptance is needed but learn from your past and move on.

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2. Align

Write down a list of your values. These will be the new standards that you have for yourself. This will help you to make sure you don’t fall for the same crap in your next relationship. If you don’t think about these things that you know won’t work for you, identify them and push for better in your next, you’ll fall into the same trap again. We tend to date people with like behaviors because there is a familiarity there that we don’t always consciously pick up on. If you are honest with yourself about what you want (and don’t want), you can check yourself so that you don’t make the same mistakes again.

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3. Believe

The last step is to believe in who you are and the standards that you have. You are building a solid foundation because you have accepted what happened to you and you’ve given yourself the armour to defend against any future creeps.

Men lying and their trickery is something that we can’t control. But, we CAN heal ourselves so that when we do find a good guy, we don’t let all of the LOSERS who did us dirty get in the way of true happiness. And, once you’ve invested in who YOU are as a woman, forgiveness happens naturally! You’ve put all your energy into making yourself stronger. You won’t even have to think about what’s-his-name anymore.

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Yeah, calling them ‘LOSERS’ is a little childish.

But whatever, some of them still live in their mama’s basement so…

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You know I want to hear from you, what are your thoughts on this?

Leave your comments below.

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